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	<title>the WingDangDoo &#187; the hard stuff</title>
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	<description>making shit up since the late seventies</description>
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		<title>eulogy</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2010/05/eulogy/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 May 2010 20:21:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[remembrance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[words are never enough]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday, we celebrated my sister&#8217;s life. I was honored to remember her with these words. 
My name is Patty, and I am – and forever will be – C.’s kid sister.
For some of us, there are words and images that will forever evoke memories of C. Let me try a few on you. VW bug. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>it aint rocket science</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/11/it-aint-rocket-acience/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:20:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cancer can bite me]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The same floor. The same chair. Shift change.
I know the rhythms of this ICU. Twenty minutes until the nurses will let me in. Twenty minutes. Until.
It&#8217;s just a building. Just a building, a floor, a unit where my mother drew her last labored breath.
This time, I am here with joy in my heart.
My sister&#8217;s tumor [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>5</slash:comments>
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		<title>august 10 1966 4:10 pm</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/08/august-10-1966-410-pm/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:41:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[cooking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The answer was almost always the same: lasagna. Angel food cake with fudge icing.
Except for those dark, early years when I seemed to favor layer cake with lemon (ewww!) filling and buttercream frosting.
She would always make me whatever I wanted on my birthday.
I&#8217;d been imagining yesterday off and on for months, never fully wanting to [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>8</slash:comments>
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		<title>carry on</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/03/carry-on/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/03/carry-on/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2009 01:53:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the most depressing blog on the planet]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m so tired. My back is aching, my eyes are closing. I was scrubbing pots and pans, cutting up the chicken in the slow cooker. A long, teary, lingering hug goodnight to my boys, kisses on their sweet cheeks. Goodnight sweet angels. Look, I know Daylight Savings just started yesterday. I know you are wide [...]]]></description>
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		<title>this is only a test</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/02/this-is-only-a-test/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/02/this-is-only-a-test/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Feb 2009 02:45:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[norwalk hospital can kiss my ass]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[My sister had a seizure yesterday. She is now out of the hospital, and having recently become a connoisseur of these local establishments I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s an exaggeration to say that Norwalk sucks monkey chimpanzee eggs when it comes to both quality of care and patient services. Having spent most of the past 24 [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>9</slash:comments>
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		<title>hawaii late 70s</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/02/hawaii-late-70s/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Feb 2009 18:35:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I think this was 1977, maybe 1978. Which would make it impossible for the child on the left to be my son, because he was born in 2000.

Besides the color of my hair, let&#8217;s dwell on the texture for a moment. I think the word that best describes it is STRAW. We went to Hawaii [...]]]></description>
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		<title>grace</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/02/grace/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/02/grace/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Feb 2009 12:27:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Whirs and tubes and beeping machines she hated. IV drips.
This is not how I want to remember my mother. Let&#8217;s go back&#8230;
The ER. Call the priest. Get him here. It&#8217;s time for him to pray. It&#8217;s time for me to pray.
No. Go back.
My husband calls, telling me to come because she was having so much [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>12</slash:comments>
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		<title>it&#8217;s me</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/01/its-me/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2009/01/its-me/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:48:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;ve always been with me. 
Spending days with me and your nephews in the post September 11 lunacy. Fixing the heat in the Scooter on the way home from visiting Matthew in Maine in 1983. Telling me I was fucking up when I needed (not wanted) to hear it. Toasting my newly minted marriage as [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
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		<title>the year in rewingdangdoo</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2008/12/the-year-in-rewingdangdoo/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2008/12/the-year-in-rewingdangdoo/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:49:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[labradiculous]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the good stuff]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the zoo]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Finally. I started this blog in 2008. Finally.
And finally, 2008 is drawing to a close. Finally.
I&#8217;ve had so much fun.  So many of you have made me laugh (and occasionally tear up) over these past several months as I&#8217;ve read your blogs and as you&#8217;ve commented here. I&#8217;ve been so honored every time a reader [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>17</slash:comments>
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		<title>hit the bottom and escape</title>
		<link>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2008/12/hit-the-bottom-and-escape/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.wingdangdoo.com/2008/12/hit-the-bottom-and-escape/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:38:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>patty</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[the hard stuff]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[

 
A look back to last fall, when the center could not hold. 
 
Scandal and secrecy are like a blanket, covering me with the tales that aren&#8217;t mine, the secrets I’ll take to the grave. A career at perilous risk, the careening marriage, a story of heartbreak told deep in the woods as we [...]]]></description>
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